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But Did You Break Up Though?: The Games We Play or Why We Stay

Over the last two weeks, there has seemingly been a theme among my clients and friends. It seems that folk are ready to break up. But of course, there are lots of barriers in the way to doing it right, because people are usually scared of the process. For those who don’t know, breaking up does NOT mean ghosting, hitting someone with the slow fade, making them mad enough to break up with you, or talking about how you need time to grow and that one day you might come back. When we break up, we do it right, we do it clean, and don’t leave false hope, or tarnish our character in the process.

Relationship AdviceDr. Donna OriowoOctober 12, 2018AnnodRightbreak up, breaking up, relationships ending, ghosting, slow fadeComment

On the Eve of Cuffing Season

Finally, that crisp September air is here! With the changing of the season in a week and all of our Autumn plans coming a whole lot closer, we know that cuffing season has arrived!!! With cuffing season usually seems to come a whole lot of expectations and the close kin, miscommunication. You know we have to work on that. Let’s talk about expectations and communication in cuffing season.

Relationship AdviceDr. Donna OriowoSeptember 21, 2018AnnodRightcuffing season, autumn, fall, friends, relationships, relationship advice, communicationComment

A Lesson in Power: The Friend Zone

It's not so much a power exchange, which I think could be a great thing within relationships and relational interactions, but it's more in the context of having and keeping the upper hand to have dominion over the relationship. So in a sense, some are seeking to be G God while their partner would remain a peasant sent do their bidding. Power.

Relationship AdviceDr. Donna OriowoAugust 24, 2018friend zone, power, relationships, toxic relationships, friendships, relationship advice, fuckbois, fuck girls, fuckfolkComment

WHAT DO YOU WANT from a relationship (another prerequisite)

Anyway, there are many people who are not in the romantic situation they want to be in. Some feel like they only manage to attract fuck bois and fuck girls. Others feel like they are settling into relationships they would rather not be in (some of which are abusive, though not physically). And even more others are concerned they will end up being single for the rest of their lives because the formula to dating seems to be off for them. When dealing with this in session, with friends, or with strangers on the street, one of my most pressing questions is: “What do you want from a relationship?”

Relationship AdviceDr. Donna OriowoAugust 10, 2018AnnodRightrelationships, relationshipgoalsComment

Do You Even Love You?: The Prerequisites to a Successful Relationship

Can you be in a SUCCESSFUL relationship with someone else? Now, I have to throw the emphasis on successful, because if you really wanted to, I am sure we could all find ourselves in a relationship. But just because you “got somebody” doesn’t mean they are the person for you, nor does it make the relationship good or successful.

Relationship AdviceDr. Donna OriowoAugust 3, 2018self love, self help, relationships, successful relartionshipsComment

Dating Games: Talking Politics, Religion, and Race

Dating can be stressful. Adding to the sometimes stressful dating process is the fact that we are living in a time where we all have strong opinions about a lot of important topics. Because it’s a polarizing time, it’s important to be very clear about what issues are important to you when it comes to choosing potential partners. The days of avoiding conversations about politics, religion, and race is over. A lot of us have very strong opinions about these subjects and it’s important to figure out if you’re on the same page BEFORE developing feelings for someone who might have a conflicting world view.

Guest Blog, Relationship AdviceErin TillmanJuly 27, 2018dating advice, politics, religion, race, potential partners, relationships, datingComment

Communicating Sexpectations: If You Put It Down Right

We need to work on setting our expectations around sex and relationships and then making sure others are aware of these boundaries.

Relationship Advice, Sexual Health, Self CareDr. Donna OriowoJune 22, 2018communication, sexpectations, expectations, boundaries, consent Comment

Saints and Scoundrels: Moving on From Broken Relationships

Today we talk about the duality in people and learning to accept that in honor of ourselves. Lately, I have published a few posts that speak about the duality of people and how we sanitize people to be who we expect them to be. It’s a part of cognitive dissonance, when ideas, beliefs, and behaviors contradict each other. If you want to read more about how I see saint and scoundrel, you can read about it in some of the other posts including this one about Kelis & Nas. But, for this post, we are talking about how that black and white thinking can feel like it helps with moving on. BUT really how it can get in the way of moving forward in our journey when a relationship ends.

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Relationship AdviceDr. Donna OriowoJune 8, 2018AnnodRightrelationships, saints, scoundrels, moving on, Black Relationships, Black Relationships MatterComment

We Belong Together...? Then Why do I Feel STUCK!

I got more advice yall. I mean why shouldn’t you get as much as you can from a sex therapist, right? So, here we go again. This is the second post in honor of some of the clients I see. A week or two ago, I did a post on how to get through when you just broke up with someone. You can read that HERE. Today we are moving on to those who aren’t sure if the person they are with, is the person they should be with. In other words, those who feel stuck and aren’t sure how to move forward.

Relationship Advice, Self CareDr. Donna OriowoMarch 23, 2018Unstuck, Stuck, Wrong RelationshipComment

Apr 29, 2023

Help! We Are Not Sexually Compatible

Recently I had the honor of meeting with Dr. Jess for her podcast, Sex with Dr. Jess and we spoke about sexual compatibility. I don’t think it’s much of a secret that I think folk use the idea of being sexually compatible as a cop out.

What I mean is that we often work hard as hell to NOT try but then blame everything on sexual compatibility. We will say there is no chemistry, that we feel off, and have really done no work. Now, you know that I am a whole assed sex and relationship therapist so ima give you a short run down on the tea spilt in that conversation with Dr. Jess.

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