Recently I had the honor of meeting with Dr. Jess for her podcast, Sex with Dr. Jess and we spoke about sexual compatibility. I don’t think it’s much of a secret that I think folk use the idea of being sexually compatible as a cop out.

What I mean is that we often work hard as hell to NOT try but then blame everything on sexual compatibility. We will say there is no chemistry, that we feel off, and have really done no work. Now, you know that I am a whole assed sex and relationship therapist so ima give you a short run down on the tea spilt in that conversation with Dr. Jess.

Sexual Health, Relationship AdviceDr. Donna OriowoApril 29, 2023Sex TherapyComment

Jessie Williams: Consent F*cking Matters

Current Events, Sexual HealthDr. Donna OriowoMay 18, 2022consent, current eventsComment

Chloe Bailey, Treat Me: A Discussion of Sexuality & Respectability

Chloe Bailey recently dropped her newest single “Treat Me” along with a music video. Well, the chaste police have spoken and have found great problem with the music video and, for some, the song and style of singing as well. TikTok is full of comments including:

“You are too good to turn out like this”

“It feels awkward”

“Meanwhile Halle hasn’t lost her senses yet, she still carries herself well”

“Too much, too soon Just want to see a beautiful young lady with talent but classy”

“Not sure all this was necessary”

“Pretty tasteless”

“You’re gorgeous without doing all that”

“The industry ruined her”

😪

Sometimes people don’t even recognize their own misogynoir.

Current Events, Sexual HealthDr. Donna OriowoApril 15, 2022sexuality, respectability politics, Chloe BaileyComment

The Secrets of Pleasure: How It Benefits You Mentally and Emotionally.

Goal Planning, Mental Health, Self Care, Self Esteem, Sexual Health, WellnessDr. Donna OriowoMarch 10, 2022pleasure, Mental health, Emotions, Sexual Health, sex education, control, Self ConfidenceComment

Wish Dating: Are you dating them or your idea of them?

Whether it’s my clients or my friends, I constantly hear people talking about who they’re dating, and I often wonder if they're just wish dating. You know wish dating, when you wish the person you’re dating lived up to that list you made in your head.

Relationship Advice, Self Care, Sexual Health, WellnessDr. Donna OriowoJuly 8, 2020 Comment

Masturbating Beyond May

Just because the month is coming to an end doesn’t mean that your masturbation should. So to make sure that y’all continue to show yourself a little self love all year long I wanted to give you some resources to make sure it happens.

Mental Health, Self Care, Sexual Health, WellnessDr. Donna OriowoMay 29, 2020Comment

Faking Orgasms: We Ain’t Got Time for That Shit

I really wanted to talk about something that I feel is a pandemic that needs to stop. It's something that bothers me, hurts me, and makes me wonder what kind of work I and other sex therapist out here in these streets doing if this is occuring. I'm talking about...hold your breath, faking orgasms.

Relationship Advice, Self Care, Sexy Time, Sexual HealthDr. Donna OriowoMarch 25, 2020Comment

Women’s History Month: 20 Sex(uality) Pros Doing the Damn Thing

I wanted to dedicate a blog post to a few Black women (and women of color) whose work revolves around sexuality and are doing the damn thing. What better timing, than Women's History Month.

Black History Month, Mental Health, Relationship Advice, Self Care, Sexual Health, WellnessDr. Donna OriowoMarch 13, 2020Comment

Being Single on Valentine's Day Could Actually Be a Good Thing

You know what holds us back from having a bomb ass romantic loving relationship? Hint: It’s not about being single. No, the real problem is that we have been taught and you have decided that romantic relationships with others should be and are more valuable than any other type of relationship you have, including one you could build with and for you.

Relationship Advice, Self Care, Self Esteem, Sexual HealthDr. Donna OriowoFebruary 12, 2020Comment

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